The Scotsman

Meghan’s ‘unbearable grief ’ over miscarriag­e

- By TONY JONES newsdeskts@scotsman.com

The Duchess of Sussex has described experienci­ng an "almost unbearable grief" after losing her second child in a miscarriag­e.

In a deeply personal article for the New York Times, Meghan wrote how she lost her unborn baby in July in California-a moment that left husband Harry holding the "shattered pieces" of her heart.

The duchess has been widely praised by charities for sending a "powerful message" to others who have lived through the same trauma by speaking about the issue.

A source said there is "understand­able sadness" within the royal family at the disclosure.

In the article, Meghan says: "Losing a child means carrying an almost unbearable grief, experience­d by many but talked about by few.

"In the pain of our loss, my husband and I discovered that in a room of 100 women, 10 to 20 of them will have suffered from miscarriag­e.

"Yet despite the staggering commonalit­y of this pain, the conversati­on remains taboo, riddled with (unwarrante­d) shame, and perpetuati­ng a cycle of solitary mourning."

Other royal women have experience­d the loss of an unborn baby, with the Countess of Wessex losing her first baby in December 2001 when she was airlifted to hospital after suffering a potentiall­y life-threatenin­g ectopic pregnancy.

The Queen's granddaugh­ter Zara Tindall suffered two miscarriag­es before having her second child and spoke in detail about her experience in a newspaper interview.

An estimated one in four pregnancie­s ends in a miscarriag­e, according to the charity Tommy' s, which funds research into misc arri ages, stillbirth­s and premature births, with most women losing their babies during the first 12 weeks of pregnancy.

Sophie King, a midwife from Tommy's, said miscarriag­e is a "real taboo in society, so mothers like Meghan sharing their stories is a vital step in breaking down that stigma and shame". She added: "Her honesty and openness today send a powerful message to anyone who loses a baby: this may feel incredibly lonely, but you are not alone."

The du chess began her article by describing a typical morning getting up and looking after her son Archie: "After changing his diaper, I felt a sharp cramp.

"I dropped to the floor with him in my arms, humming a lullaby to keep us both calm, the cheerful tune a stark contrast to my sense that some - thing was not right.

"I knew, as I clutched my firstborn child, that I was losing my second. Hours later, I lay in a hospital bed, holding my husband's hand. I felt the clamminess of his palm and kissed his knuckles, wet from both our tears. Staring at the cold white walls, my eyes glazed over."

Meghan also wrote: "Sitting in a hospital b ed, watching my husband's heart break as he tried to hold the shattered pieces of mine, I realised that the only way to begin to heal is to first ask, 'Are you OK?'"

Harr y's uncle Earl Spencer said on the ITV show Lorraine: "I can't imagine the agony for any couple of losing a child in this way. It's so ver y, ver y sad.” she suffered her miscarriag­e in July.

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