Can’t settle until I know

Dear June

MY husband died in February.

He had been ill for some time and was supposed to be on oxygen, but the night before he died we noticed it wasn’t on. He died the next day. Did he suffer and is he with family?

I can’t settle until I know these things. Christine, Dumfries.

It can be quite distressing for a family to have to leave a loved one in hospital to be cared for by others.

On occasion, when their needs are not met, it is very natural to be upset and to carry some regret at leaving them, even though there was no other option.

We leave those we love to be cared for by experienced professionals and in doing so we have nothing but their best interests at heart.

There are many like you (including myself) who have been left with so many unanswered questions with regards to the care a loved one received.

You cannot change events when your dear husband was in hospital, so it is best not to dwell on the past.

Your husband is now safely over on spirit side in the caring hands of those who love him.

He has no pain or discomfort and is very settled and at peace.

He understands how distressed you have felt since his passing but wants to reassure you that he is with family and is content.

He will continue to watch over you all and will patiently wait for the day when you can all be together again.

June Says