Is our grandson talking to his deceased twin?

Dear June

My youngest sister died unexpectedly last year.

The coroner could only provide a possible explanation but was able to confirm it was natural and there were no suspicious circumstances.

Our mum died three years earlier and my sister struggled to get over her loss.

We worry her distress may Dear June

When our daughter married she decided to start a family immediately as, at 38, she knew her biological clock was ticking.

The following year she gave birth to twin boys.

Their first born had a heart defect and only survived for a few days. That was nearly five years ago.

Our youngest grandchild is healthy and happy, but occasionally says he speaks to a little boy in his room at night. He is not frightened. Could this be his brother?

Doreen, Glasgow.

June Says

It’s not unusual for young children to be aware of spirit around them and also to see and hear them quite clearly.

Children are very open, trusting and accepting.

Your grandson would not yet understand what is normal and what is not, as he has nothing to compare it to, so he would think that seeing and talking to people in his room at night is what happens to everyone.

I always saw people at night when I was young and thought it was normal until I went to school to discover not everyone is the same!

Try asking him a few questions when he mentions the little boy again, such as “What did he talk about?” “What was his name?” and “What did he look like?”

This will allow you to build a picture of the boy and talking about him will also make your grandson think it’s a natural thing to sometimes see people.

Try not to be pushy as this might frighten him and make him feel he is doing wrong.

When a young sibling is lost, it’s likely the surviving sibling will be aware of their brother or sister, especially when they were twins, as the bond is stronger.

I am shown a double silver frame with photographs of have resulted in her death.

Her daughter is now also struggling to cope. Are you able to offer her any solace?

Jacqueline, via email. June Says

The loss of a mum is one of the most difficult griefs to bear.

She is the one you turn to when you need support, love and advice. After her loss you feel very much alone and

two babies, one in each frame. I feel this might be of some significance? Does this picture sit in his room?

I have the impression these are your grandsons.

A G has been held up and I hear Margo being called. As I hear this name I am also aware of a small white dog coming forward. Can the two be connected?

Your grandson in spirit will walk close by his twin throughout his physical life and will greet him when he, too, eventually crosses over. VERDICT

The double-connected silver frames hold pictures of the two boys just after they were born.

Close relations were all given the photos in the frames so we all have the same. One is placed in his room.

My mother-in-law was called Margaret and she had a white West Highland terrier that meant the world to her. Family and close friends used to call her Margo.

The capital G could be my husband’s name and also their second name.

We had all thought and hoped it was his brother and that he would be looking after him. vulnerable as you adapt to her not being here physically.

The bond between a mum and her kids is one of the strongest and cannot be broken, even in death.

Your mum will have your sister safely by her side and their combined love will be surrounding all of those struggling to cope with their absence, supporting them through their grief.