Life is tough without son

Dear June

I lost my son last year and the pain of living without him is unbearable.

He was 39 and left a young family who are also struggling to cope.

I never thought in a million years I would have to go on without one of my children.

Can you tell me anything?

Christine, Blantyre. June Says

To have to endure the loss of one of your children is not something any parent wishes to think about.

The responsibility of parents is to offer support to their kids throughout their lives in order to be able to watch with pride as they become independent, responsible adults.

Our aim is to make sure they are able to survive without us so we know they will be able to make their own way in life when we are gone.

No parent believes their child will pass before them. We expect our children to live on and have families of their own.

I feel your son was your firstborn and he was a sensitive, responsible, loyal and well-liked individual.

I sense a sudden, unexpected passing.

Although he is no longer of the physical, he is still very much a part of the family and will remain close.

I also sense a stubbornness with him and feel he will do his best to make himself known to you all in an effort to ease the pain of his absence.

Strong family bonds of love do not die, they go on and on for eternity.

Dear June

Over the past few months, things have been disappearing in my room, including jewellery, which is always stored in the one place.

I found the jewellery a week later in a handbag at the back of my wardrobe.

I have often felt things have moved in my bedroom in the past, but nothing ever