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After my dad’s death, mum just ignored me

Dear June

My dad passed away when I was a teenager and since that awful day I never got on with my mum, who passed more recently.

It’s as if she just ignored me, not even acknowledging my birthdays, so I left home as soon as I was able.

I have three older sisters and I’m the only male in the family. Dad was chuffed when I came along as he finally had a son, as he used to joke about being surrounded by women! I’ve always wondered what I did to upset her.

Jim, Livingston.

June Says

After a passing, we all react differently, but this can also have a lasting effect on our personalities and the way we live our lives.

We all become individuals encased in our own grief for a while and must go through our own grieving pattern in an effort to cope the best way we can with our loss.

I am impressed to say I strongly sense your parents had a good, solid marriage and that your mum’s world fell apart after his death.

I know they are together now as I am aware of their energies building up.

I am shown a grey granite gravestone and sense your mum was laid to rest with your dad?

My impression of your dad is of an easy-going man who relied on your mum’s organisational nature and skills to take the lead with the running of the house and raising the family.

I sense his passing was unexpected but I also get the impression he inadvertently contributed to his deteriorating

health and accepts some of the responsibility.

Your mum was strong and down-to-earth, and saw to the family’s needs. She showed her love through her many practical actions and tasks, rather than through emotional words of comfort.

I get the impression you are very like your dad.

Your mum can now see how you struggled with her behaviour and she carries a strong bond of love for you.

She was angry and hurt after your dad passed and the only way she knew of coping was to shut you out, as you reminded her of him.

I feel impressed to tell you you didn’t do anything wrong.

They both watch over you

and your sisters and love you

all equally.

VERDICT

Mum and Dad were good parents who got on well with one another, despite having totally different and almost opposite natures.

We had a good family life until after Dad died.

My mum was a no-nonsense person who was not overly emotional but cared for us all very well in the practical sense.

Dad suffered from emphysema (among other things, including vascular problems) but refused to give up smoking, which infuriated Mum. We placed Mum beside Dad and changed the headstone to grey granite. I’m the double

of Dad and have many of his mannerisms.