Losing parents months apart was unbearable

Dear June

I am writing to ask for reassurance that my mum and dad are together.

Mum took ill last year after a brief illness and died in less than two months.

Dad did not cope well without her and passed away unexpectedly earlier this year.

My grief at losing both parents less than nine months apart is unbearable. It would give me great comfort to know they are together and happy. Sandra, Stonehaven.

June Says

Responsible parents are the foundations we build our lives upon.

When we lose them, we can feel very vulnerable and alone without that safety net of love that surrounded us all of our lives.

Even though our parents may eventually need help and reassurance from us, we still have the security of their unconditional love and when that is gone, no matter our age, we feel extremely lost without them.

The loss of both parents within such a short time is heartbreaking but knowing they were not separated for long brings a little comfort.

I am aware of a man drawing close who I sense was easy-going.

He is accompanied from behind by a taller older lady who is holding the hand of a young boy (he looks around six or eight years old).

Did your mum lose a child? I feel he is family connected.

I am unable to gain information about him but he has dark hair and eyes.

I am impressed to say they are your parents. Was your mum older than your dad? Was she also slightly taller?

I sense her passing was connected to the chest. I also feel she was surrounded by the love of her family when she died.

Does he know what is going on down here? Dorothy, by email.

June Says

When you are used to facing life’s problems as part of a team, you will initially find it very difficult to work your way through family issues and, understandably, feel very alone.

This is normal and, as you slowly adapt and adjust to a

Your mum was of strong character and your dad was happy to follow along.

He would have been totally lost when she passed.

She was the strong one and he missed her love as well as her leadership.

I sense your dad’s passing was caused by blood issues.

I am shown a harbour with boats and sense feelings of great calm around them.

They’re safe, contented and together, as they should be, after a brief spell apart.

VERDICT

My mum was 10 years older than my dad and was also slightly taller than him.

She passed away of pneumonia with family around her, 50 days after being diagnosed with cancer.

Dad was diabetic and lost the will to carry on after Mum passed, as she was the one who kept us going.

The young boy could be my mum’s younger brother who died when they were young, but I don’t know much about him.

Mum had light blue eyes. They both loved the harbour at Stonehaven and walked there often.

I feel more settled knowing they’re together and happy. new independent lifestyle, things will get easier and your feelings of vulnerability will begin to dissipate.

I am impressed to say you talk to your husband every night to ask him for advice and help.

He knows how difficult things have been for you and is still there by your side, supporting you like he always did.