Why is the man I have loved for two years cutting me off after he told me he loved me?

Looking for practical advice, relationship help or emotional support? As a mum-of-four, grandmother-of-eight and dear friend to many, Margaret’s years of experience make her the ideal person to turn to with your worries sending you a clear message – he wants space and time to think things through.

Remember he has come through the break up of his marriage and that is a traumatic experience for anyone. He isn’t ready yet to make a serious commitment again. That doesn’t mean he has no feelings for you. It means he needs to be very sure about his emotions.

Please don’t harass him. Give him a chance to work out what he wants.

Your phone calls must stop. Your visits to his house must stop. Give him time to be alone and to work out how he feels.

You clearly care very much for him and it’s only natural that you feel hurt and confused by his behaviour. But he isn’t ready yet to make the commitment you want and hard though it is, you have to accept this.

He is sending you a clear signal that he doesn’t want to make a decision about your relationship. He has been enjoying your company but if you want more and he isn’t prepared to go there yet, he will be feeling anxious and trapped.

I know this is hard to hear, but the kindest thing you can do right now is leave him alone. Stay strong. See your friends. Be kind to yourself.

You have a lot of love to give, but right now you must accept that in every relationship timing is important.