Dying Kate’s inspiring ‘instructions’

Singe and the boys Reef and Finn.

months later her health went downhill. It was in her final weeks that Kate compiled her list. Singe and the boys have since roller-skated inside the National Museum in London, gone diving in the Red Sea, discovered a four- leaf clover and had many more adventures.

And Singe always kisses Reef and Finn twice – one from Dad and one from Mum.

Kate’s personality, Singe says, is all through the list and little things like eating her favourite biscuit, an orange Club, perk the boys up when they feel down. Another of Kate’s instructions was for her sons to grow up to respect women and 50- year- old Singe is delighted at the “men” the boys are becoming.

“While they won’t see the film for a few years, they did receive a very special letter last week,” he said.

“Kate wrote it on the night she died, sealed it and told me to give it to them when it was the right time. With all of the publicity for the film, now seemed right.

“I hadn’t read the letter until then, but it brought home how much we love each other and it emphasised t h a t we should support one another.”

Another instruction on Kate’s list was for Singe to find another woman to settle down with.

“Every relationship I’ve had has

The family together before Kate

died been very precious and I’ve always punched above my weight. But could I find another diamond like Kate? “I have. We’re keeping it lowkey but we’re a very happy family.“

The film is likely to trigger interest in the re- launched book, and a support programme called Mum’s List Legacy, set up to help people around the world cope with bereavement, is being rolled out.

“A friend of mine said even though it’s a film that women will want to see, it’s a movie every dad should watch too,” added Singe.

“Many have also said they will buy a notebook to write their own list and to make the most of life.”

That might just be Kate’s greatest legacy of all.

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