Losing parents makes us feel very vulnerable
Dear June
My parents have long since passed away. I was very close to them both and after my father died I looked after my mother for 15 years before she, too, passed. I attended a few spiritual churches in my area in the hope of a contact from them but they have never come through. I also went to a local medium for a private session and was told by her that I was too hard to read.
I just want to make sure they are together and happy. Can you please help?
June Says
Losing both parents can have a lasting effect on every child.
The loss of a parent, although expected one day, is a difficult grief to bear but we are comforted and distracted from it by the parent who is left. Losing both can leave us feeling very vulnerable. As adults venturing out of the family home, we know in our hearts that if anything should go wrong we could always go back.
The loss of both parents takes this safety net away and leaves us with the feeling of being alone and having to fend for ourselves. As I become more aware of spirit, I get the impression you were closer to your father prior to his passing.
Your relationship with your mother grew closer in time, whereas initially I feel you did not see eye to eye. You were an only child and had a happy upbringing. I feel your father was easygoing and quite happy to allow your mother to take the lead role in the family. His passing was unexpected and there was no chance to allow closure.
I sense your mother passed after suffering an illness over a long period of time, where her health gradually deteriorated. Your father was quiet and My husband used to always make sure everything was off. Do you think it was him letting me know? Does he know we have another grandchild?
Jane, Glasgow.
June Says
Your husband will undoubtedly know he has another grandchild as he will remain close to his family in order to watch over them.
Maria, email. reserved and didn’t like to be the centre of attention. He would not push himself to the forefront, apart from being the first to arrive to collect and accompany your mother safely over to spirit side after her death.
I do not feel your parents would have been comfortable pushing forward to be heard in a public event of mediumship as they were both very private individuals. You are loved by both parents and that will continue long after physical death.
VERDICT
My relationship with my father was extremely close but I did become closer to my mother after his death, as previously we were not that close.
My father’s passing was sudden and we didn’t get the chance to say goodbye, as he suffered a stroke and passed in hospital before we arrived. My mother had dementia and our relationship grew closer as she needed me after my father died.
I was with her when she passed.
I was their only child. They were both reserved and didn’t like confrontation. I’m relieved and comforted to learn they are together. He would have been watching over you that evening as you went about your usual bedtime routine, then noticed you omitted to turn the heating off. By nudging you, he not only alerted you to your heating but also to the fact he is looking after you. Knowing he is close brings great comfort as well as the confirmation he is OK.