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Mum remains by your side

Dear June

We lost my mum in October after a long illness.

We miss her so much. I feel bad that I did not stop at the hospital and hold her hand the night before she died.

My dad feels bad as we could not have her home.

Is she at peace and watching over us?

Neil, by email

June Says

After the loss of someone close, everyone carries their own feelings about what they should, or could, have done differently. We do not have an exact time when a loved one will pass and there are many who regret not managing the time they had left with their dying loved one.

When someone has been ill for a long time, we become accustomed to seeing them each day in their unwell condition. Over a long period of time we adapt to seeing them this way, so when they pass, their death can still come as a shock. These are normal feelings and invaluable to the grieving and healing process.

Your mum knows how much you love her and would not want you to have any regrets about the few days leading up to her departure from the physical world.

I am sure most of us would like to pass in familiar surroundings with loved ones by our side.

Unfortunately, this is not always possible and can depend upon the care and treatment required for each individual. Don’t worry, your mum is very much at peace now and will remain closely by the side of her loving family.

Dear June

My brother-in-law passed away unexpectedly after a long illness.

He had chronic obstructive pulmonary disease and, although he was on oxygen 24 hours a day, he was glad to see my husband and I when we visited him at home and his mood was always cheerful.

We were supposed to see him on our way back from a trip but we arrived later than usual, so we passed by.

He passed away later that night. I carry a lot of guilt.

Karen, Kinross

June Says

None of us ever know exactly when a love one is expected to pass over.

Even though they might have suffered ill health for a long time, they will pass over when their spirit is ready to leave their physical body and also when previously passed loved ones are there to accompany them over. I do not believe in coincidence and I strongly believe those who are not meant to be present at a passing won’t be there. Your brother-in-law would have also become aware of the many people he loved and lost gathering around him to reassure, support and guide him.

I get the impression he had a great sense of humour, which was also accompanied by a huge stubborn streak!

He liked to make his own decisions with regards to his care and condition and was adamant he wanted to pass away in his own home.

I sense he knew how poorly he was as his health had rapidly deteriorated and this made him more determined to stay in his house.

I am aware of him as he draws forward. He is closely accompanied by an older male (I don’t sense he is his father but he feels very

much like a father figure). They are extremely happy to be reunited, as I feel they were separated years ago. Your brother-in-law was very caring and would have worried about the emotional impact on you and his sibling had you been at his passing.

He is safe and settled with many others around from spirit who love him dearly. They’re all glad to see an end to his suffering and to have him safely in their care.

VERDICT

He always had a cheerful demeanour and was loved by everyone, but loved ones were also very aware of his stubborn streak. He and my husband lost their older brother through suicide many years ago and he had suffered from depression.

They both looked up to him and it was such a shock when he died. My brother-in-law found him and this had a huge emotional impact on him, which I feel affected his health.

We’re glad they’ve found each other and relieved he is no longer suffering. He also got his wish to pass away in his own bed.

Dear June

I recently lost my wee sister, with whom I was very close.

I spoke to her the day before and she was fine. I received a call telling me there was an ambulance at her door, but by the time I got there, she was gone. I saw the paramedics trying to help her but I knew then she was gone.

I’m absolutely devastated. Can you say if she’s with our parents and if she’s OK?

Margaret, by email

June Says

Your sister will now be very settled on spirit side, surrounded by those she knows and loves who previously passed over. No one ever leaves the physical side of life without someone they know and trust from spirit by their side to collect and accompany them over safely.

They will then be reunited with many others who will support and settle them, especially if their passing was traumatic or sudden.

Your sister will now be safely cocooned within the love and care of your parents and, one day, you too will reunite with them all.