Did my wife really see her father when she passed away?

Dear June

I wanted to write to you after the passing of my wife, as she used to look forward to reading your column.

She had been unwell and deteriorating for many months, but was determined to spend one more Christmas with us all. She passed on December 30. During her final days in hospice care she mentioned several times she had seen her father in the room and that he was all right. (He died more than 40 years ago.) She always had a close relationship with her father. Did he come for her?

June Says

When someone is nearing the end of their life, the door to this side of life slowly begins to close as the door to the next side of life begins to open. When this happens, those nearing the end of their physical life are able to see those in spirit patiently waiting for them.

No one ever passes alone. There is always someone waiting to collect them and accompany them over – usually a relative or someone they loved or with whom they had a close bond. This can also be a great comfort to those relatives and loved ones who are sitting by the bedside holding the hand of a loved one who is dying. Some people call out a name or stretch their arms out with a smile of recognition just before they leave their physical body. On reading your letter, I am almost immediately joined by many from spirit side. I feel them slowly gather round me.

I am aware of a small figure drawing to the front of the energies. Was your good lady quite petite in height? I sense a gentle loving soul with her, but also that of a strong, determined mind and I feel she could be quite stubborn at times.

She is in a mist of turquoise. Was that a favourite colour?

Dear June

I’m hoping you can reach my husband who I lost two years ago.

Does he leave me signs I should find? How will I know? What should I feel? My daughters sometimes feel him around them but I find it hard to feel this and when I dream of him it’s the back of his head I see. We were together for 56 years so, as you can imagine,

She makes mention of the three girls. Were there three people with her when she passed? I don’t feel you were with her at the end. I get the impression she had discomfort in her lower stomach area throughout her illness but sense she had a peaceful passing and was not in pain.

I feel a great sense of calm with her and sense she remained emotionally strong for all of you prior to her death.

A man is with her and I have no doubts he is her father, as I can feel the love between them. He collected her and continues to keep her safe on spirit side.

She was petite in build and height at 4ft 10in.

She was a loving wife and wonderful mum to our two girls. Our daughters and her little sister were with her. I’d gone for a lie down in the hospice as I knew she was in good hands. She initially had bladder cancer but complications arose. She was laid to rest in a turquoise suit as she requested. She was emotionally strong throughout her illness for us all. For a small lady she was the rock of the family. We’re happy she’s reunited with her dad. there is a huge part of me missing.

I hope you are able to help me.

Vivien, email

June Says

VERDICT

After 56 years together, it is natural to feel very lost and vulnerable without him.

He is undoubtedly with you but when grief and emotions are raw it is not so easy to feel our loved ones close. There are many

Ronnie, Linlithgow who dream about lost loved ones who receive a view of them from the back. This is initially normal and quite common. As grief becomes less raw and you begin to adapt, adjust and accept life without your husband physically by your side, you’ll start to become more aware of him around you and one day he’ll appear in your dreams looking directly at you.