Experts: Sibling abuse is a hidden epidemic and got worse during lockdown

The abuse of children by a brother or sister is a hidden epidemic and has worsened in lockdown, according to a leading clinical psychologist.

Dr Rachel Happer, director of the University of Edinburgh Centre for Psychological Therapies Research and Training, believes sibling abuse whether physical, psychological, emotional or sexual has, like other forms of abuse, “escalated significantly” during the pandemic.

Most cases go unreported, she warns, because the abuse is often passed off as part of normal interaction between siblings and sufferers often do not realise they are victims or if they do, are ashamed to admit to it.

The psychologist, who is the former head of the National Confidential Forum, appointed by government to lead a team acknowledging historical abuse in institutions in Scotland, said: “We only record abuse that comes to light and sibling abuse is one that is hidden because it occurs within close family relationships and the atmosphere of secrecy is even stronger.

“The secrecy is associated with shame and shame is the hardest thing with abuse to shift. That shame continues into adulthood and it is one of the most powerful silences.”

Little research exists on the issue. However, Happer said evidence was also emerging from

official probes such as the Scottish Child Abuse Inquiry where the focus was on institutional abuse

but also considered peer-on-peer and intrafamilial abuse. She added: “The level and prevalence of abuse that goes on within institutions and families is much greater than any of us have ever thought.”

Dan Mushden, 41, a recovery practitioner for mental health charity Penumbra, said: “Definitions vary but it’s often cited that sibling abuse occurs when there are repeated incidents of physical aggression or violence, which becomes an established pattern of behaviour that parents are unable or unwilling to stop. Over time, the sibling relationship becomes reminiscent of victim and perpetrator roles.

“It is physical violence but also financial exploitation – for example, the taking of wages and benefits. It can have longstanding and detrimental consequences for victims.”

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