Unable to settle since husband’s sudden death

Dear June I’VE felt lost since my husband died.

He was my life and love and, since his death, his family have pushed me aside and we’ve had no contact.

He was born in Edinburgh and we lived in Scotland, but my family are from Lithuania and still live there. I travel back and forth, unable to settle. I return to my family for support and to Scotland for memories. I miss him so much. Does he know all that’s happened since his death?

E.M., Edinburgh and Lithuania.

June says

I sympathise and can appreciate your dilemma.

You are instantly drawn back to the love of your family for support and comfort to help you through your loss, but you’re constantly pulled back to Scotland in an attempt to be close to your husband.

Many people hang on to objects such as clothes or jewellery that belonged to their loved ones, as it makes them feel a little closer to them.

Your husband’s love is held within your heart and will always be strong, no matter where you are, as his love is all around you.

I can instantly see lots of books filled with knowledge on many different subjects.

He informs me you have them and is pleased you do.

He collected them throughout his life, taking great pride in them.

I sense he travelled around a lot. I see unpacked suitcases, telling me he wasn’t in one place too long to settle.

He was a leader in some sense, as many people respected and looked up to him.

His passing was very sudden and unexpected. He wasn’t ill so everyone was shocked, him included.

He passed alone, wasn’t at home and wasn’t discovered for a few days.

I see many people travelling from all over to pay respect.

I don’t feel his family had a close relationship with you both prior to his passing.

I feel an older and wiser soul in him that doesn’t want you blaming yourself for not being with him.

You must be aware of him because he visits you often and touches your hair.

He knows how lost you feel, as he makes me aware he always took the lead in life by making all the choices and decisions.

He is still guiding you from the spirit side, lighting up the darkness which you feel surrounds you.

His love for you will bring you safely once more into the light.

VERDICT

My husband passed alone and it was around three days before he was found. He had not been ill. His books were his life and he loved them and was proud to have them. I have them all.

He was older than me and was very well-travelled with his work.

His success set an example to his peers.

I feel him around me often and can feel a light touch to my hair.

You’re right — the relationship with his family was not a strong one to begin with.

People travelled from all over to pay their respects to him.

He did make all of our life plans.

He was a born leader.