You didn’t let mum down

Dear June

I LOST my husband five years ago and have days when I think of him but I know he’s OK.

My mum passed last year.

I was her main carer and I feel very guilty at not being there when she passed.

My family don’t seem to understand.

I miss her. Can you help?

Pat, Oldham.

June Says

You took on the responsibility to look after your mum as her main carer and carried out your duties willingly and diligently with love and compassion.

You had a special bond with her and she relied on you, knowing you would not let her down as you took your position seriously and would have done anything you could for her, proving this many times through the love and attention you gave.

I can understand why you feel guilty at not being by her side during her last moments here on Earth.

What you need to understand is that your work here was completed. There were many loved ones from spirit side around her ready to carry out their roles to guide her home.

Other family members did not carry the same responsibilities regarding your mum’s care so they would not fully understand your emotions.

Your mum was aware of the many familiar smiling faces gathering to meet her.

She felt safe enough in their care to let go of life.

You did not let her down. You gave her the ongoing support she needed in order to prepare her for the time when she had to leave.