Your parents are remorseful for childhood pain

Dear June

I AM 62 and have recently retired through ill health.

I have a wonderful husband and a successful, grown-up daughter. Even with all of the above to be grateful for, I feel very lost in life. I have always felt I just don’t fit in. My upbringing wasn’t a happy one and my parents passed years ago. My father was an alcoholic and my mother always took his side to keep the peace, so I took the brunt of his abuse. I now find myself asking why.

Morag, via email.

June Says

As a working medium I’ve found that many who did not receive the strong foundations to build on through family love, support and bonding during their childhood years can struggle with life and can lack confidence.

The basic blank canvas we all begin with in life is the same.

How we view life when we are young is dependent upon those around us we watch and learn from.

Those nurtured in a safe, secure environment filled with love will never lose that feeling of support and will benefit from it in every stage of their lives.

Their foundations are strong and they can build on them without fear of failure, knowing a family safety net will catch them should they fall.

Those less fortunate, who have had to endure constant fear at a young age from emotional or physical abuse, will be less trusting and will feel a sense of insecurity.

They know they don’t have that safety net.

Their foundations have to be self-made and acquired later through trial, error and experience.

I get the strong impression from your mum that she let you down and did not protect you as a child, as she was fearful of your father.

She accepts this was wrong and is remorseful.

I see a railway bridge and can hear trains on the tracks.

I have a sense of inner peace when I hear this. Is it a memory?

They are both stepping forward to offer positive energy around you in an effort to make up for the negativity caused in your young life.

They are now very aware of the emotional turmoil you endured as a child and I can feel their love towards you.