Mum will be free of illness

Dear June

MY mum died just over a year ago from dementia.

I often wonder if when she passed she got all of her memories back.

Does she forgive us for having to sell the family home to fund her care?

I miss her terribly and hate to think she is upset and confused there, too.

Mairi, via email.

June Says

Do not worry about your mum as she will be free of the physical body that was gradually deteriorating around her.

Dementia can only cause harm and confusion to the physical body and cannot affect her on the spirit side of life.

Your mum will, of course, have regained all of her memories and will be with those connected to her who had to go on ahead with their journey.

She will be surrounded by love and peace and will be looking down on you all with great love.

Your mum will also be able to see it was through necessity that you had to sell her home, to enable her to receive the proper care and attention she needed.

You will always miss your mum as she was a huge part of your life and loved you unconditionally.

It is heartbreaking to see someone you looked up to deteriorate with such a debilitating illness.

Please be assured she is no longer confused or upset.

She will be waiting to greet you with a beautiful, reassuring smile filled with love when the time eventually comes for you to join her.

June Says

I’m sure your husband knows you are trying to make contact and I’m certain he’ll also be trying to let you know he has in fact arrived safely and is no longer in pain.

I have found over the years if someone passes suddenly, it can sometimes take them longer to adjust and adapt on spirit side rather than if they’d been ill for a long period.

Those left behind after a sudden passing are in shock and disbelief and they can take a longer period of time to come to terms with their loss.

Whereas, when a loved one has been ill for a long period of time and eventually passes over, it would’ve been expected and would be easier to accept than if someone was here one day then gone the next without suffering any illness.

It also depends on the personality of the person who has passed, whether they were shy, quiet in nature or an individual who would let everyone know they were there.

The medium demonstrating publicly would be drawn to the loudest voice and the best communicator and if someone is of a quiet nature then they will more than likely not be willing to push forward in a public place filled with strange people, but that doesn’t mean they wouldn’t be there

watching the proceedings.

I am impressed to say your husband was of a gentle, quiet demeanour.

I hear the names William or Bill and Harry being called and I’m being shown a gold rose.

I sense he suffered from a blood disorder such a diabetes or circulatory problems.

I know he passed at home and there were two people there – you and his daughter?

All is well in his world and every day he watches over you and yours.

VERDICT

My husband’s name was Bill and my father’s name was Harry and they always got on well together.

Bill had a quiet nature and would never push his way forward, especially in a room with strangers, so I now have a better understanding of why he hasn’t made himself known to me.

He was diabetic and suffered ill health because of it for many years.

He passed away peacefully at home with our daughter and me by his bed.

After his funeral we kept a rose each from the top of his coffin and had them sprayed gold to keep them for ever.