Did our daughter find my father when he passed? Dear June

IT’S been almost a decade since our beautiful daughter passed away.

She was 11 and born severely disabled. At the time, we were told she might not live.

She was unable to function unaided and couldn’t talk, but we were able to communicate and she knew how much we loved her. She gave so much love and we desperately miss that. My dad passed over last year and I am anxious to know if they found each other. I asked them to somehow let me know.

Helen, via email.

June Says

The death of a child is devastating. It’s a very unnatural tragedy for parents because we bring our children into the world and take it for granted they will outlive us.

The passing of a disabled child who required constant care is heart-breaking.

The void left is very difficult to fill as their parents would have dedicated their lives to caring for their child.

I have been told during some readings of the constant worry parents have when they lose a child who required specialist care and could only communicate with difficulty.

Parents become anxious about who would be able to care for their child and if they would know and understand their child’s particular needs.

Your daughter will no longer be restricted by the physical barriers that prevented her from living a normal life.

She would have shed the physical body to become free from its restraints, similar to throwing off a cumbersome jacket.

While writing your reply, I am aware of a strong smell of roses.

I see a small gathering of people standing together in the distance and sense they are part of your family.

They are gathered around two people who I feel are your

dad and lovely daughter.

They have, indeed, met up and are safely together.

They have a wonderful bond of love that remains strong.

I see a small soft, toy tiger associated with your daughter. Was that a favourite toy? I am also impressed to say she was an only child.

I see a capital G being held up and I’m made aware of August. These must be of some significance with either your daughter or dad.

Remember she is a free soul and doesn’t need the intensive physical care any longer.

Although unseen, she will for ever be by your side.

VERDICT

We found it very hard to carry on after we lost her as she was the light in our lives.

It took a very long time for the worry to ease and to this day it has never really gone.

The initial G could be for either my dad or our daughter (Grace or Gordon) and it is a huge relief to know they are together. Grace was born in August. The toy tiger was a gift from the WWF as she was a tiger protector and she really loved it.

We placed it with her, along with a few other toys.