Grandparents are reunited and happy in spirit

Dear June

Our family is heartbroken. We lost two very special people within six months. Our gran passed last year. She had not kept in good health for a long time but always managed to smile through it.

She and Grandad were inseparable and he was always there to look after her. When she was no longer there, it was as if he just lost the will to live and wouldn’t leave the house. We know how much he missed her. Are they together again?

Karen, Dundee.

June Says

It is always very difficult for loved ones left behind when their partner passes away.

It is inevitable that one half of a couple passes before the other, but when you’ve spent your lives together it is devastating and life-changing.

As we get older we find it harder to adapt to anything new that can cause disruption in our lives. We would much prefer a settled routine filled with familiarity as this makes us feel secure.

When a partner dies, some elderly partners left behind can lose interest in life.

I have read for many who have lost their long-term partners and when this happens it’s as if they also lose the reason to get out of bed in the morning.

It is heartbreaking to lose a loved one, followed quickly by another, but when you see the partner struggling with such emotional pain there is a small consolation when they, too, pass on, knowing they are together.

I sense from those drawing around me from spirit that your gran was a character.

She was the matriarch of the family and the glue that held everyone together.

I do not believe she could walk and feel stiffness and pain around my body (arthritis?). She is free from all pain now, although I get the

impression she rarely complained.

Your grandad is standing close by, accompanied by many in spirit who were lost to him for years. Were there mostly males in his family?

His heart just gave out as it was broken when your gran had to go on ahead of him. He shows me a picture of her dressed in blue.

I get the impression he passed peacefully at home.

He’s happy and contented to be reunited with her and many others he loves.

VERDICT

Gran was the matriarch of our family and the glue holding us together.

She had suffered from osteoarthritis for years and was unable to walk. She never complained.

Grandad would fuss over her every day and she kept him going. He was broken and lost when she died.

He was the last of six brothers to pass (all males around him).

He had a picture by his bed of Gran and she was wearing a blue cardigan.

He passed in their house while sitting in his chair.

They were always together and we are happy to know they are together again.