I feel like part of me died along with my sister

Dear June

My sister and I were only a year apart in age. We lived near to each other, got married months apart and had our children around the same time.

Our parents passed away when we were in our 20s but we always had each another. She was the strong one and would know what to do in any situation.

She passed away last year after a short illness and we are heartbroken. I am trying to be supportive but feel as through a part of me died, too. Can you help?

Gillian, Aberdeen.

June Says

As I read your letter, I heard someone laugh.

It was a very distinctive laugh, the type that could be heard above the rest in a roomful of people, and I sense a very mischievous sense of humour!

I’m aware of many people starting to gather round me. I sense your sister to be one of three ladies drawing forward and that she was a social butterfly who enjoyed meeting people and they, in turn, enjoyed her company.

Did she have multicoloured hair? I’m seeing a small lady who has short hair and it’s pink, green and blue.

I know you mentioned she passed away after a short illness but I am impressed to say I feel her passing was sudden and unexpected. I am experiencing a sensation of pressure in the head.

She draws closer and the accompanying ladies are lovingly protective. I sense your mum to be one of the ladies with her.

Did your mum pass with heart problems? I sense she was a very quiet lady.

She had to leave her family behind and wants to thank you for looking out for them as she knows they are in safe hands with you.

She wants you to know she is being looked after and is never far from you.

She hears you as you talk to her and knows how much you’re struggling without her.

The name Fran has been called from spirit.

I’m shown a picture of a bride in white with a tartan sash and as I hear Mairi’s Wedding being played.

I know these were happy family times and she wants you to remember her in when she was at her best.

You are supported by your sister, mum and the many others in spirit who love you.

VERDICT

My sister had pancreatic cancer but passed suddenly from a stroke.

She fought the disease a few years before and when her hair started to come back she coloured it with pinks, blues and greens!

She was larger-than-life, had a very loud laugh and everyone loved her.

Her daughter married last year and we were all at the wedding. It was the last happy family gathering we had.

Marie is our mum’s name and we spoke of her at the wedding when that tune was played.

Fran is my husband but he is still here and they got on really well.