Husband’s bad choices in life will now be forgiven

Dear June

I have so many unanswered questions that I have been afraid to ask. It’s nearly 16 years since my husband died. He was 42. We had been together since our early school days and married in our teens. We had two children together.

He did not have a good upbringing and his early family life wasn’t the best. The choices he made in life cost him dearly.

His life was cut short at the hands of another. I have worried for years about where he is now.

Mrs P., Glasgow.

June Says

All of us have made some wrong choices in our lives.

It’s during periods of reflection we realise some of the choices and decisions we made were wrong.

I find many decisions we regret are made in haste or during times of emotional turmoil when we are not thinking clearly and acting on impulse.

Irrespective of choices made, we have to accept responsibility for our actions.

Whether right or wrong, as long as we learn from them they are not wasted and are banked for future reference.

I have yet to meet the perfect person who has lived life and gained valuable lessons without making any wrong turns.

The foundations created by adult family members in our early lives are initially all we have to build on.

If they were not sturdy to begin with, when we try to build our lives on them they sometimes crumble on us.

As I make my connection, I’m instantly aware of a man pulling forward and, as he draws closer, I see he has tattoos on his neck and face.

I am impressed to say he is aware of a tattoo you have in his memory and that this was recently changed or added to. His passing was fast and I am aware of the

sensation of not being in control of the body and slipping away.

He was met by a young woman who escorted him over to spirit side and I sense their relationship to be close.

He is with others who love him and has accepted his choices caused his demise, which is a major part of the healing process for him.

You will see him again one day as, though he knows his choices affected everyone close to him, he also knows how much you all love him.

VERDICT

My husband passed from a heroin overdose and his death had suspicious circumstances.

He had many tattoos and did have them on his neck and part of his face.

I have a few tattoos and after his death I had one designed in his memory which was touched up last year as the colours were fading.

He was very close to his sister who passed away suddenly around 10 years before. She was the only one in his family who supported him.

It puts my mind at rest knowing he is with his sister and that I will reconnect with him again one day.