I’m 28 and prefer older men... but they are either married or can’t sustain a real relationship

Dear Maggie

I’m 28 years old and have been unable to have any sort of lasting relationship with men of my own age.

I do, however get on well with older men – usually guys over 40.

The problem is that most men of this age are already married and therefore unavailable.

And those who aren’t married or have been married, are now divorced and clearly haven’t been able to sustain a proper relationship.

This is starting to really get me down and now I’m wondering if I should just give up on ever finding a loving, lasting relationship?

Maggie says

At 28 years of age you are far too young to even begin to think that you’ll never meet Mr Right!

He’s out there somewhere and young need to stop feeling so negative about your chances of ever meeting him.

You’re living by a pre-conceived “condition” of your own mind. There’s no reason why someone who is divorced is incapable of forming a happy relationship with someone else.

Just remain openminded and take each situation as it comes.

Every human being is different – so give each man you meet a chance to become at least a friend.

Your pessimistic outlook is probably not helping you.

Concentrate on widening your social circle. Join an evening class, take up a new hobby, get out into the world and meet people. You may find someone whose company interests you and a relationship may develop.

If it doesn’t, don’t panic. Sometimes when you stop looking for a commitment and just get to know someone slowly, you may be surprised how things develop emotionally.

Right now, your desperation shines through in your letter. So lighten up. Enjoy being 28 years old. Get to know each person as an individual and if it works, great. If not, move on. There’s a world out there – enjoy it!