Loved ones are always there

My dear wife of 67 years was admitted to hospital after a series of falls.

She had dementia, which meant she failed to recognise me at times.

Sadly, she passed away last September and I regret not being at her bedside.

Would my presence have made a difference and has she found peace?

Robert, by email.

The loss of a close loved one from dementia can be difficult.

Family might feel they already lost a part of their loved one when they failed to recognise them or other family members.

After the physical death, close family might feel like they have lost the loved one all over again.

Many who were present at the passing of someone they love felt as if they had the chance to see them safely on their way, as if they were silently saying goodbye.

Also, some feel strongly that it’s their responsibility to be present to offer support and love.

My belief is if you were not able to attend the passing, you were not meant to be present.

At the end of every life, the door to this side starts to shut as the body begins to close down.

At the same time, a door to the next dimension begins to open and the dying individual becomes aware of past loved ones waiting to collect them.

Our presence during this transition can give great comfort but is not totally necessary as loved ones from spirit gather to collect and support those they love.