Christmas will be so tough without my mum-in-law

Dear June

My mother-in-law passed on December 23, 2015. We were very close and my husband was her only son.

She had been ill for a few months and we decided it would be best if she came to live with us.

We wanted to surprise her and organised a room especially for her that she would see on Christmas Day.

But she died alone in her home and Christmas is now a sad time. A message from her to say she is OK would mean so much to us.

Eileen, Middlesex

June Says

As I read your letter, I am aware of a small, slight-built lady drawing forward who seems eager to make contact with you.

She is not at all shy and has an extremely friendly, welcoming demeanour.

There is a gentleman with her who seems to be much more reserved and quieter and he is allowing this lady to take the lead.

They seem very at ease and extremely comfortable with each other and with me. There is no reluctance or coaxing required for either of them to draw closer to enable me to make my connection with them.

This lovely lady has to be your mother-in-law and the man would be her husband.

I know you have concerns about her passing alone in her home but this man was with her and had been waiting for her for some time.

I also get the impression she liked her home and would therefore have been reluctant to move out.

I don’t feel they had been separated through death for long (less than five years?) and the home contained many memories of their lives.

I am being shown the most beautiful bouquet of lilies.

I sense the man had been ill for quite some time and he passed at home. I feel he’d issues in regards to his blood.

This lovely lady was with him when he passed.

I do not sense you or your husband were present at his passing.

This loving man came to collect his wife and give her the same love and support she gave him in his last hours.

I sense a cancerous condition with your motherin-law and over the last year she had deteriorated quite rapidly to someone in need of constant care.

Don’t worry about either as they are safely together.

VERDICT

My mother-in-law was named Lilian but everyone called her Lily. She was very friendly and outgoing.

She’d cancer and many other health issues and did deteriorate very quickly.

My father-in-law passed three years ago with blood poisoning (gangrene) caused by diabetes at home, with Lily by his side. Myself and my husband were not present.

She said she felt close to her husband in her home but we had been trying to gradually persuade her it would be better if she came to live with us.

We are all so happy they are together as we knew how much she missed him.