I reached out to friends and found talking really helped

The fact that something could go wrong after a positive pregnancy test never crossed Jamie Williamson’s mind – until it happened.

Emma had been experiencing cramp pains. She was checked over at hospital, but everything looked fine.

But, when the couple went for their 12-week scan, they discovered it was a miscarriage. “It was a massive shock,” said Jamie, 27. “We just didn’t expect it at all.

“It was awful, but the hardest part for me was seeing how hard it hit Emma and not being able to do anything about it. I was there for her when she was upset but there was nothing I could do to fix it.

“To be honest, for the first few months I didn’t really feel much – and we didn’t talk about it. We just couldn’t.

“My sister had a baby and we were over the moon for her, but couldn’t hold it. It was difficult to see what we could have had if our baby survived.

“I tried to put my feelings aside and just concentrate on making sure Emma was OK. I didn’t find it easy to talk to anyone about it.

“However, as time went on, Emma and I started to open up to each other and I reached out to friends and family. It turned out talking about the miscarriage was the best way to accept it.

“When we had a second miscarriage, it wasn’t so hard on us, probably because we were on the same page and knew exactly how the other was feeling.

“Earlier this year, we met another couple who had experienced loss, and I find we are able to speak about it more, because they have been through it too. They just ‘get it’.

“I didn’t think counselling was for me but I found people around me to open up to and it has definitely helped me.

“I would suggest any men experiencing miscarriage or baby loss try to find someone to talk to. Whether it’s a counsellor or just someone you are close to, talking about it is the best thing you can do.”