‘I WAS 99% DEAD... I ONLY HAD A 2% SURVIVAL CHANCE’

Woman opens up about mental health struggles after attempt to take own life left her in coma

flated on its own, which they didn’t think it would do.

“They told me that my left foot will not recover because it’s been so long already. Others have told me I could see nerve repair in a year and a half so I’m a bit confused. I’m not really sure what’s going to happen, but I’m hoping it will repair.

“I’m not too worried because I am still walking, although I can’t stand up for a long time. I’m lucky to have come out of the coma with only the issues I have instead of severe brain damage or more severe physical problems.”

Though Cariad feels relatively positive about her physical health, she still has concerns about the amount of support she’s had for her mental health since leaving hospital.

She said: “When you get released from hospital after a suicide attempt they automatically give you a mental health crisis team. They started coming to the house once a week just to talk about how I’m feeling, what I’ve done that week, and to see if there are any patterns that make me happy or sad. They also monitored my sleep.

“Then I went to a psychiatrist and was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder (BPD) but they haven’t actually given me any medication for it. I haven’t really had much help other than a diagnosis. I was always recommended meditation, but that takes years to master. I’m an over-thinker and when I sit there my mind races.”

And if it wasn’t hard enough recovering from something so physically and mentally difficult, Cariad and many others like her had the coronavirus pandemic to contend with.

“Some days I can be OK, I’ll just stay in my room most of the day, but other days I can feel physically ill because of [my mental health]. I won’t want to get out of bed and I’ll be very snappy. Either I’ll not sleep at all for a couple of days or I’ll spend the whole day sleeping. Covid hasn’t helped with the lockdown.”

Through the period she has also lost close family members and friends and said real life doesn’t stop when you’re suffering from or recovering from a mental health episode.

She said: “Four of my friends have committed suicide in lockdown. I find lockdown extremely unsustainable because for the young people I know who have done it how many more must there be out there? It’s hard because when you know someone is struggling, you can’t even support them because you’re not allowed to see them. It’s also brought it to light how many people are struggling out there other than just me.

“I’ve built a lot of relationship with my parents being at home with them and I’ve built a relationship with my sister Shannon too, but I still think about [my suicide attempt] every day and I still get down days especially because I lost both my grandparents in the space of five days from each other – one on Christmas Day and one on December 30.

“If anything my life has gotten worse because I can’t walk properly and I’ve lost people close to me, but seeing the damage I caused to my family and being close to them has helped me through the hard times.”

Despite her diagnosis of BPD Cariad and her family believe there is something else going on that is not being picked up because of the demographic she fits in.

Cariad explained: “Myself and my family all think I’m bipolar. It’s what my specialist in London thought too as it can be seasonal. It would explain the severity of it and why I’m OK in the summer months but when autumn and winter hits I’m more reserved. A family member has bipolar and we are very similar. But even if they did change my diagnosis the medication causes bone damage, so you can’t be on it too young.

“I just feel like because of my age it’s still not being taken seriously, even with my background.”

Although Cariad is still struggling with the effects of her suicide attempt, she said she is motivated to carry on with the love of her friends and family as well as the prospect of one day having her own place to call home. She now has a puppy, Titch, who has helped her tremendously in getting her life back on track.

She said: “It’s hard to know what to do when someone is struggling but I’ve had lots of messaging making sure I’m OK. Every day I get a fair few messages and that means a lot. I also have a puppy to concentrate on now. I had been nagging for one for about 20 years but my family surprised me when I had the news my lung collapsed. She’s a tri-coloured pug called Titch – because she’s so small. She’s helped massively with my physio and my mental health. She’s so cwtchy, she crawls onto the lap of whoever will let her at about 7pm and will just stay there until you put her to bed.

“I always thought I would be back walking and back in work by now. I didn’t think it would be such a long recovery process. Starting back at work still isn’t an option for me at the minute, but I do eventually want to get back into it. I haven’t decided what yet, because even though I loved caring I couldn’t deal with the stress. I feel like if I could save up for my own place it would help me feel like my life is going somewhere.

“Generally I am a lot more positive now – when I do feel low I have been able to not act on it, and I know if I was struggling again I would talk to my family and open up more.”

She said that although she had felt dismissed by medical professionals, it is still extremely important that people seek medical or professional help when they need it. She said she has found charities such as Mind and Barnardo’s particularly helpful in offering specialist support and advice for those who need it and in the future, when she is able to, she hopes to raise money for people struggling with their mental health.

Cariad added: “You can’t really get support unless you speak out about it and it is still one of those taboo subjects. I think a lot of charities are understanding, and will give you support – that’s what they’re there for.”

A spokesman for Aneurin Bevan University Health Board said: “We are sorry that Miss Jarrett was not happy with the support that she received. It would be inappropriate for us to comment on individual cases; however, we would ask her to contact us directly so that we can support her and discuss her concerns.”

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