Why would you ever be embarrassed about something that is helping you?
make themselves feel mentally better.
“No matter how 21st century we are, we’re still stuck in a toxic-masculinity world, where there are pressures to be a certain way if you’re a guy.”
Filming the documentary was the first time Roman had openly spoken to his parents about times he’d had suicidal thoughts himself: twice in his life, both times when he’d missed medication. “I had to say it because I wanted to show guys, and girls, that it’s OK to talk to your parents about these things.
“I don’t think my dad knew the severity of it, how badly I suffered with it,” he says, adding that it was “a big step in our relationship – now I feel like I can talk to him about it.”
Over the years, he’s found additional methods to help himself cope. “Self-care for me is playing football – that’s the place for me to get out all my tension or anger. It just dissipates and you have a different perspective on things.”
He also suffers from panic attacks and describes himself as a ‘worrier’. “I worry about one thing and 10 minutes later, it’s escalated into the worst possible scenario. But if I feel myself getting to that point, I’ll go for a walk or a run, or I’ll go to the sauna. I get the heart rate up and carry on with the day.”
Talking is the absolute key says Roman, “Honestly, the most simple thing is talking, and talking will cure everything. I promise you that.”
■ The new online mental health services can be found on Boots. com/mental-health-support. Prices range from £10 to £65. If you are having suicidal thoughts or need support quickly, the Samaritans helpline is free and available 24/7 – call 116 123.