KAR­REN BRADY ON THE SMALL TWEAKS THAT MAKE A BIG DIF­FER­ENCE TO YOUR LIFE

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OVER THE YEARS I HAVE MADE SMALL CHANGES TO MY LIFE THAT HAVE MADE A RE­ALLY BIG DIF­FER­ENCE TO THE WAY I LIVE IT AND – MORE IM­POR­TANTLY – HOW MUCH I en­joy LIV­ING IT.

THE FIRST CHANGE I MADE WAS A YEAR AGO WHEN I CAME TO THE CON­CLU­SION THAT YOU AL­WAYS (UN­LESS IT’S YOUR MOTHER, OF COURSE!) HAVE TO SPEAK YOUR MIND. BE­CAUSE I WORKED OUT THAT IT’S NOT THE THINGS THAT YOU SAY THAT YOU LIVE TO RE­GRET BUT THE THINGS YOU don’t SAY, WHEN YOU KNOW YOU SHOULD HAVE.

LIKE WHEN SOME­ONE IS RUDE AND YOU LET IT SLIP. LIKE WHEN SOME­ONE IS CRUEL AND YOU DON’T INTERVENE. WHEN SOME­ONE IS DIS­RE­SPECT­FUL AND YOU WISHED YOU’D GIVEN THEM THE EQUIV­A­LENT OF A VER­BAL SLAP IN THE FACE. EV­ERY TIME SOME­THING LIKE THIS HAP­PENED AND I WOULD NOT SAY WHAT I THOUGHT, I WOULD BE SO FU­RI­OUS

WITH MY­SELF THAT I WOULD NOT SLEEP. SO NOW IF I DON’T LIKE SOME­THING SOME­ONE HAS SAID OR DONE, I SAY WHAT I THINK, RE­SPECT­FULLY BUT DIRECTLY TO THEM, AND WITH CON­VIC­TION. I FEEL I HAVE RIGHTED A SMALL IN­JUS­TICE, AND FRANKLY THE PER­SON HAS NO DOUBT WHERE THEY STAND WITH ME AND WHAT I WILL – OR MOSTLY WILL NOT – TOL­ER­ATE.

THE SE­COND THING I STARTED

TO DO WAS MAKE LISTS. A LIST OF EV­ERY­THING THAT NEEDS DO­ING, THAT HAS TO BE DONE, OR THAT I WANT TO

GET DONE. THERE IS NOTH­ING MORE STRAIGHT­FOR­WARD THAN WRIT­ING THINGS DOWN TO FO­CUS THE MIND AND – BOY OH BOY – THE SAT­IS­FAC­TION OF CROSS­ING THEM OFF THE LIST WHEN THEY ARE COM­PLETED! WELL, NOTH­ING GIVES ME MORE SAT­IS­FAC­TION.

NOW I CON­TEM­PLATE WHAT OTHER SMALL CHANGES I CAN MAKE WHICH WOULD HAVE A BIG DIF­FER­ENCE. IF I HAD THE NERVE, I WOULD PROB­A­BLY HAVE SOME­THING DRAS­TIC DONE TO MY FACE AND BODY, BUT ON THE BA­SIS I HAVE – AT MOST – AN HOUR OF DOWN­TIME, A FACELIFT OR, MORE IM­POR­TANTLY, A BUTT LIFT IS PROB­A­BLY NEVER GO­ING TO MAKE IT INTO MY SCHED­ULE.

BUT WHAT ABOUT

BOTOX? LOADS OF MY FRIENDS HAVE HAD IT

AND I HAVE UMMED AND AHHED ABOUT IT BUT

NEVER HAD THE NERVE

TO DO IT. PROB­A­BLY BE­CAUSE THE ONE THING YOU CAN­NOT GET FROM COS­METIC PRO­CE­DURES IS THE ONLY THING YOU WANT – AND THAT IS A PRE­DICTABLE RE­SULT. THIS YEAR I THINK I AM GO­ING TO HAVE IT DONE, BUT ONLY ONCE I FIND SOME­ONE

I TRUST COM­PLETELY TO DO IT!

I’M ALSO GO­ING TO JOIN A GYM

FOR THE FIRST TIME IN 49 YEARS! I HAVE RE­ALISED AS YOU GET OLDER YOU NEED TO LOOK AF­TER YOUR­SELF MORE. I JUST HAVE TO RE­MEM­BER TO PUT “GO TO

THE GYM” ON MY LIST, LEST I FOR­GET!

THEY SAY YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE…

BUT THE TRUTH IS IF YOU LIVE IT RIGHT, ONCE IS ENOUGH. W&H

It’s not the things you say you re­gret but the things you donÕt say

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