‘Only you can de­cide when IT’S Time TO move On’

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‘Only keith seemed TO un­der­stand’

Denise Pa­trick, 49, lives in Hert­ford­shire. She has two daugh­ters, mil­lie, 26, and Jessie, 23.

Iwas 45 when my hus­band, Des­mond, died of a heart at­tack in Jan­uary 2014. We’d been to­gether for 25 years, and he and our two daugh­ters, Mil­lie, then 22, and Jessie, 18, were ev­ery­thing to me. At first, I tried to stay strong for my girls. But as soon as the funeral was over, and they re­turned to univer­sity, I be­came lost in grief. When I tried open­ing up to friends and fam­ily, it just made things awk­ward – peo­ple didn’t know what to say.

Only my friend Keith, whose chil­dren at­tended the nurs­ery I ran, seemed to un­der­stand. A few years be­fore, he’d been through a di­vorce, and was now rais­ing his two chil­dren alone. He knew how hard it was to lose the per­son you thought you’d spend the rest of your life with. Over the next months, we spent hours talk­ing. By May 2014, we were meet­ing up three, some­times four, times a week. Then one day, while we were hug­ging good­bye, our bod­ies lin­gered. At first I was scared. It had only been four months since Des­mond passed, and yet I couldn’t deny my at­trac­tion to Keith. A few days later, we kissed. Al­though it was won­der­ful, I was wor­ried about how the girls would re­act. When they came home from univer­sity a week later, I told them how I felt about Keith.

Be­ing older, Mil­lie un­der­stood. But tears sprung to Jessie’s eyes. I wrapped my arms around her. ‘Keith makes me happy,’ I ex­plained. ‘But if it up­sets you, we won’t see each other any­more.’ I could see she was torn, but even­tu­ally she gave her bless­ing. Not a day goes by when I don’t think of Des. But af­ter los­ing him, I’ve had to move on.

Keith has been there for Denise

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