I’m struggling to make myself orgasm

QI really love bringing myself off but, over time, it’s got more and more difficult. I have to use really firm pressure on my clitoris for ages. But then I feel less and less as time goes on – it takes me hours sometimes and I end up getting sore. Have you any idea what I’m doing wrong or have any suggestions about how I can get it right?

Susan says

AProbably, the firm pressure and drawn-out stimulation you’re using is desensitising your clitoris. Try using lighter pressure. Try pausing between touches, so your clitoris re-sensitises. Buy a vibrator with irregular vibe patterns that gives you a range of pressure and rhythm.