I’ve never met the right person

Iknow it’s hard to be on your own when you want a relationship. That said, it’s easy to come across as anxious, needy and somewhat desperate and that will put people off. The fact you use the word searching makes me wonder if you’re exhibiting some of the characteristics I’ve mentioned.

The other trap people fall into if they fear rejection is to appear a bit aloof and independent. That attitude can make some men wonder if you see them as not good enough.

Hard as it is being open, relaxed and fun it is much more likely to appeal to a new partner than someone who they feel is desperate for any partner, rather than wanting them as an individual.

The first thing I think you need to do is to reframe what you’re looking for. Consider finding a male friend instead of a partner. And what are the activities you’d like to share with them? Having worked this out, think of where you could meet someone who you could have fun with. Increasing your circle in a more casual way will reduce the tension. Even if you don’t meet someone special, you’ll have new friends to do things with – and remember, they’ll all have friends, too!