REACH YOUR PEAK

Experts reveal the tips that can help you get what’s coming to you

FIND WHAT WORKS

Don’t expect someone else to know what pleases you if you don’t know yourself. ‘Masturbate,’ says Dr Mintz. ‘If you don’t know where to start, check out OMGYES (omgyes.com) – watching videos of other women doing it can be really instructive.’

SAY WHAT YOU NEED

‘Talk outside the bedroom, so you both feel less vulnerable,’ Dr Mintz advises. ‘Also, take ownership of your pleasure by saying, “I really love it when you do this,” or, “I’d love it if we could do this,” rather than using blaming statements.’ Just don’t debrief immediately after the act, obvs.

SHOW AND TELL

‘If you want them to do something differently, gently move their hand or head,’ says Campbell. ‘And let them know when they’re doing it right to encourage them to keep going.’ Not working? ‘Show them what they need to do to make you orgasm with your hands or a vibrator,’ suggests Dr Mintz.

LET GO

Too conscious of your splayed thighs or sex face to let go enough to climax? ‘You really don’t have to worry,’ says Campbell. ‘Your partner won’t be turned off by your vulnerability or any facial expressions. If anything, they’ll be turned on – it’s rewarding to know your partner’s climaxing.’

CHECK YOURSELF

‘Many women grow up worried they’ve had too few or too many partners and thus aren’t able to enjoy sex enough to reach orgasm,’ says Dr Mintz. Relate? ‘Let the negative shameful thoughts out, write them down and challenge them,’ she says. While listening to Rihanna, ideally.