HE IS DRINKING HIMSELF TO DEATH

My husband is a chronic alcoholic. He refuses to stop drinking or go to Alcoholics Anonymous. He is in a downward spiral and I will be very surprised if he lives as long as Christmas. I went to Al-Anon Family Groups and they were lovely and understanding, but not able to give me practical advice, such as what to do when he falls and breaks something and refuses to help clear it up. I am totally helpless and just waiting for when his liver gives out or he drops dead. What I am trying to point out is that there is not always help and advice for people who are living with this awful problem. I think I have done all my mourning, so when the time comes, I will be able to cope with the loss. This is a terrible situation to be in and I am sorry that your husband is refusing to receive help. Unfortunately, unless an alcoholic accepts that they need help, the chances are they will get worse or, as you say, drink themselves to death. If he falls, I would help him up. Members of Al-Anon Family Groups (al-anonuk.org.uk) are usually there to offer comfort and support because they too have had an alcoholic partner or family member. My understanding is that they share their experiences and talk about what they did in similar circumstances, though they don’t give direct advice. But do carry on using their support. If your husband dies in the next few months as you predict, you will, in time, get your life back. If not, then it may be better for you to end the marriage or, for now, live a separate life within it as much as is possible.