IS OUR SECRET FLING WRONG?

I am a 22-year-old man and I’m having an affair with my mother’s best friend, who is 48 and divorced. We have had sex many times and have strong feelings for each other. My mother knows nothing about our relationship. If she found out she would most likely cut all ties with her friend and stop speaking to me. Am I doing anything wrong? We are both single and, despite the age gap, truly care about one another. Please tell me what I should do. You are being foolish and your lover has been highly irresponsible. However attractive she may find you, she should have resisted temptation out of loyalty to – and respect for – your mother. There is a 26-year age gap between you and, even though you say you have strong feelings for one another, the relationship doesn’t have a future. Fast forward a few years and imagine being in your late 30s, married to a woman approaching 70. I know that in your 20s, an older woman may seem sophisticated and sexually experienced, so as well as learning a lot about sex, your relationship might be great fun and exciting, too. But – and there is a big but – not with your mother’s best friend. Both of you should agree to end the fling. If you don’t, there is an increasing risk of your mother discovering the truth. That would certainly mean the end of her friendship with this woman, which I’m sure would be devastating for her. She would also be angry with you – at least in the short term – and though she may forgive you in time, it could change your relationship with her for good. I know it will be hard, but please end this now before your mother finds out and look for a girlfriend your own age.