IS FLIRTING WITH MY FRIEND WRONG?

We are a reasonably new couple and my boyfriend is great. He treats me well and says he is lucky to be with me and that I am everything he has ever wanted. Our sex life is good, too. However, I have been Facetiming and flirting with a close friend lately. I fantasise about him sexually and imagine how different my life would be with him. He has said that he’s interested in me, too. I feel slightly guilty about this. I have always looked down on people who seem to be in a great relationship with a lovely person, but then cheat on them. I haven’t done anything physical with this other man, but I still feel disloyal to my boyfriend. I am a seriously confused woman. Even though this is not a full-blown affair – well, not yet – I suspect that your boyfriend would be devastated if he knew the contact you have been having with this other person. This man says he is interested in you, but that is far different from how your boyfriend says he feels about you. For example, this man’s interest might be about having a fun and sexy relationship, but not one that lasts. How would you feel then? If you did have a future together, would your life truly be so different from the one you could have with your boyfriend – and is it a life you actually want? Perhaps you need to find out more about how this man really feels about you. It’s not fair to two-time your boyfriend, so if you love him, you need to end this flirty relationship with your friend immediately. But the fact that you are so attracted to this other man suggests you are not as in love with your boyfriend as he is with you. If so, it would be kinder to end things with him.