SHOULD I MARRY HIM OR END IT?

I am getting married next year to a lovely man. We have been together for five years and I get on well with his two children of 12 and 15, who spend every other weekend with him. We are both in our early 40s, but I have not been married before. I love him, but have felt for a long time that he is more of a brother to me than a future husband. I recently went abroad for a conference and met a man on the flight out who was attending the same event. There was an instant attraction. He was clever, charming and sexy and we would meet after work, have dinner and have amazing sex. I didn’t expect to, but I have fallen for him. I don’t think our relationship has a future as he is married and has children. I don’t want to hurt my fiancé, but I don’t know what to do. The longer you delay making a decision, the more hurt you will cause. You are planning to marry a lovely man who you no longer fancy. Was the sexual chemistry ever there or do you think you loved him because, in all other ways, he was just the sort of man you wanted to be with? Perhaps what your brief affair has shown you is how unrealistic it is to marry someone you are no longer attracted to. Once married, you would almost certainly be tempted to have more affairs. Or you might avoid making love to your husband, which could tempt him into having an affair. I think you already know that the other man is not a potential partner. As hard as it is, however, you need to think seriously about the future and try to decide if your fiancé is truly who you want to be with long-term. If he isn’t, then it would be kinder to end the relationship.