WILL I BE ABLE TO TRUST HIM AGAIN?

Two years ago, I met a man who was divorcing after a long separation. I had also recently broken up with my long-term partner. We kept our own homes as we did not want to rush things – and we both have children. Both our families were supportive. Then recently, just as my divorce came near to being finalised, I discovered he was seeing someone else who was free and single. I cut off all contact. Within a week he was all over me and two months on he still is. He regrets seeing this other woman, says he loves me and wants us to get married. I still love him, but I feel betrayed. What should I do? This man has let you down and betrayed your trust. If your instincts say that you should end it, that is probably what you should do. But if he is genuinely sorry, and as you love each other, you could give him one last chance. However, there are a few buts. Firstly, you would need to make it clear to him that if this ever happened again, there would be no more chances. Don’t marry until trust has been rebuilt and the children are used to you being together. Secondly, what is his track record in relationships? Have most of them been relatively short term and ended because of his infidelity? If so, then history is likely to repeat itself. Or has he had mainly long-term relationships and always been faithful before? If this is the case, and if things remain good between you, you could have a future together.