I REFUSE TO BE PART OF HIS ‘HAREM’

I am American and have had a predominantly online, on-off relationship with a British man for 14 years. He has a high-profile position within a well-known global industry. We broke up at one point but then rekindled our romance, and for the past two years have spoken daily. We have met and consummated our relationship. He has implied that he wants to grow old with me. However, he has a lot of women in his life around the world. He has threesomes with a banking executive and her girlfriend, enjoys prostitutes wherever he travels and has many other female interests. I don’t know exactly how many women there are in his harem. He has cancelled his last three visits on the excuse of business issues. I know I should just run and be done with him – I don’t want him to continue to make a mockery of me and other women. For all I know, he is pulling these stunts everywhere and I would like him to suffer the consequences. I am sorry you have been hurt, but you have let this man run roughshod over you. I suspect, as you do, that his cancelled visits might have been to see other women and not for business at all. On top of his philandering, he may well even have a wife – something that he has failed to mention. Even if he hasn’t, he is unlikely to change if you get together. It sounds as though he has been a womaniser all his life. If you stay with him, he will hurt you even more. Fast forward another 14 years: do you really want to look back and realise that you have wasted 28 years of your life on this man? He is using his power and money to his advantage and sounds narcissistic. I understand that you want to take revenge for all the hurt he has caused you, but it would probably just make you angry and upset – and it could backfire. So take my advice and finish with him now, utterly and completely, and open up the opportunity for a loving relationship with a man who treats you well.