I LOST MY FRIENDS AS WELL AS MY JOB

I suffer with severe depression and anxiety and have not been able to work for the past year, leading to me losing my job two weeks ago. Friends from work kept in touch and one visited me regularly. I was often asked to contribute to collections for things such as birthdays while I was off, which I did, as we had all worked together for ten years. When I was dismissed, I got a card signed by my friend on behalf of everyone and some flowers and chocolates. I am not ungrateful but feel bitter as everyone usually signs cards personally. It would have been a lovely keepsake. I know my mental health problems can make me paranoid at times. Am I overreacting? It is so hard losing your job on top of everything else. Maybe your friend just took the initiative and signed the card on their behalf? I don’t think they meant to hurt you, but they should have taken the time to sign it personally. Sadly, a lot of people still don’t know how to act around people who suffer with mental health problems because they simply don’t understand how it feels. I would gently talk to the friend who gave you the card and explain your feelings. Try not to get angry, just tell her how much it would have meant to you if they had all signed it. I spoke to the Advisory, Conciliation and Arbitration Service about you losing your job. Your company should have tried to help you to return to work, perhaps part time or in an alternative role. You can contact them at acas.org.uk or call 0300 123 1100 for advice. I hope you are getting help for your depression and anxiety.