My miscarriage is haunting me

I had a miscarriage last month and I can’t move on. I am 36 and it was my first pregnancy. Everyone thinks that I should put it behind me, but I am in despair every day. My partner is understanding, but he works away often so I have to spend a lot of time on my own. Is there any support out there? It is sad that the people around you aren’t able to understand how painful this is for you. The excitement of discovering that you are pregnant and then losing the baby can be a lonely experience. Many women have feelings of shock, grief and loss. Some find it much harder to cope with than others. Another thing that causes stress is worrying about your chances of getting pregnant again or losing another baby. However, with one in four pregnancies ending in miscarriage, they are not uncommon. You should also gently explain to your partner that you have not managed to move on yet and how important his support is to you. Sometimes it can be difficult to cope and not feel jealous if your friends are pregnant or have new babies. Please don’t feel bad about it – this feeling is understandable. It is important to give yourself time to recover and a little space before trying again. You should rest, eat well and get in touch with the Miscarriage Association (miscarriageassociation.org.uk, 01924 200799) or the NCT (nct.org.uk, 0300 330 0700), where you will find the help and understanding that you need at this time.