MY HUSBAND IS MORE INTERESTED IN PORN THAN ME

QFor 40 years, my husband has spent hours alone in another room watching porn. He takes no time to talk to me but buys other women meals and coffee. I have also discovered he is looking for younger women on dating sites. I have recently retired but worked hard all my life, as well as looking after our children. However, I’m not financially secure so cannot leave him. Women of my age deserve a better life. So many are divorced because their husbands wanted a younger partner. It’s a man’s world and

I do not want my daughters or my grandchild to end up in my situation. I don’t know what to do.

AYour husband is treating you appallingly – and it sounds as though he doesn’t love you. I imagine that his behaviour has also killed your love for him. Please believe me that not all men behave like this. Most love their wives or partners, are faithful and enjoy doing things as a couple. You could suggest to your husband that he finds a therapist to help with his addiction to porn. He could also contact the Association for the Treatment of Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity (atsac.org.uk). Many women in these circumstances would have ended their marriage years ago. I recommend that you consult a solicitor about a divorce and find out what the financial situation would be. You would be happier on your own, but if this is not possible you can lead an independent life by seeing your children, grandchildren and friends and doing things that you enjoy.