Build you and your horse’s confidence
QMy horse is as good as gold on the ground, but really spooky when I ride him. I adore him and can’t bear the thought of selling him, but I often dread having to get on board. What can I do to boost my confidence? Annette Collins, Newcastle
ASpooky horses need confident riders, but it depends how sharp this horse is and what you really want to do. Sometimes it’s good to have a reality check, because if your ultimate dream is riding carefree and relaxed through the countryside, this might not be the horse for you. Chat with your instructor – if you feel you have the riding skills required and you’re keen to make it work, then here are some suggestions: Ride a safe horse: Confidence comes from repeated positive experiences, so visit a reputable riding school and ride something safe for a bit. You’ll not only get fitter, but will build your confidence. Our unconscious mind learns from all our experiences (whether real or visualised), so try repeatedly visualising positive riding experiences in your mind, too. Get someone capable to ride him: This will build up his confidence as often spooking is a sign of insecurity. Once he’s feeling a bit more confident in himself, you can try having lessons on him, perhaps after he’s been ridden. Be equipped: There’s no shame in riding with a neck strap, and wearing a body protector will do wonders for making you feel more confident in the saddle. Keep calm: Talk to him while you ride – this will help to reassure him and calm your nerves. Remember, just take it one step at a time. Only do as much as you’re comfortable with.