Feeling confident after being bitten
QI was putting my horse’s rug on the other day and he turned around and bit me. He’s normally really laid-back so it was a shock. It’s really knocked my confidence and it’s affecting how I am with him. How can I get past this?
Heather Andrews, Beeston
AI can understand your shock, but if he’s normally laid-back then it sounds like it’s something that’s due to temporary discomfort that can be resolved easily. Perhaps the rug is causing pain or he’s just getting too hot? It’s important to find out the reason, so get him checked out as soon as possible to see what needs to be done in order to make him more comfortable. While the problem is being looked at, I’d have him tied up when you’re in his stable, whether it’s mucking out, grooming or tacking up. This is just to keep you safe and keeps you in control while you resolve this.
Renew your bond
Spend a little more time than usual with him. Often when we’ve been hurt, we try to avoid whatever has hurt us, but avoiding him won’t help to rebuild trust and confidence. Our unconscious mind learns from repetition, so being with him, in a safe, controlled environment sharing and enjoying some relaxed grooming time is vital. Over time your confidence will return, it’ll just take a little while.