Sandra’s tips:

It can be hard to find time, but don’t lose touch with your friends – you will need them later on It’s never too late for counselling. It helped me clear my head Never refuse an invitation when you have lost a loved one. You may not feel like going, but make yourself! Accupuncture and a massage help me when I’m feeling stressed You could sit and cry all day, but it won’t change the situation – you can enjoy life again, just in a different way To find out about Cruse bereavement care in your area, call 0808 8088 1677 or visit www.cruse.org.uk