How to be kind to yourself
Feeling frazzled, or suffering from mood swings? You could be in need of some serious TLC
When was the last time you had the chance to have a day to yourself, put your own needs first and said no? Women have historically taken on the role of caregivers. Tending to others has become second nature so the thought of practising self-care might make you feel a little selfish or guilty, but in actual fact, making your wellbeing a priority means you’ll be better equipped to help friends and loved ones without feeling weary or resentful.
If you’re used to putting your own needs on the backburner, check out what the experts have to say about making me-time a priority.
What are the benefits?
“While most of us are familiar with ways of looking after our physical health, it’s easy to neglect our emotional and mental wellbeing,” says Rachel Boyd, information manager at the charity, Mind. “But failing to prioritise this can have a big impact on all areas of our lives. Research suggests women are twice as likely as men to have common mental health problems, such as anxiety.”
The term ‘self-care’ might sound vague, but it’s an incredibly important tool which can help you to…
■ Cope during challenging times When stress strikes, self-care often takes a backseat because we’re too short of time and fatigued. Yet it’s during hectic or difficult times when we need it most – it helps us to function at our best.
■ Heal well
Whether it is a physical, mental or emotional wound, practising self-care will help you to get through the trauma. Being kind and compassionate to ourselves helps build one of the greatest friendships of your life – the one you have with yourself.
■ Strengthen relationships When we’re kinder and more compassionate to ourselves, we’re kinder people, too. “Taking care of your own wellbeing can help you maintain energy and give you the time and distance you need to be able to help someone else,” says Rachel. Most of us can’t afford the luxury of going to a spa or booking a getaway to practise self-care, so here are some tips that cost nothing and will make you feel just as good:
■ Get quality sleep
“Not getting enough sleep can affect our mental wellbeing and quality of life – most adults need seven to nine hours of sleep every night,” says Rachel. Give sleep the priority it deserves. If you’re struggling to get enough sleep, try the following:
✔ Set a regular bedtime and stick to it ✔ Keep your bedroom free of distractions such as a TV or mobile
✔ Make your bedroom a peaceful place, with clean linen, comfortable bedding and soft lighting
■ Eat well
It’s obvious, but when we’re stressed we often make poor food choices. Make sure you get a balanced and healthy diet, including lots of fresh fruits and vegetables and protein, as these foods are proven to lift mood. “Avoid stimulants like sugar, caffeine and alcohol. These can cause feelings of anxiety and stress and leave you feeling lethargic,” says Rachel.
■ Do what makes you feel good
You probably already know what helps you relax, such as having a bath, listening to music or taking your dog for a walk. If you know certain activities help you feel relaxed and happy, make sure you set aside time to do them at least once a day.