Send a message with Yours dating

You’ve set up an amazing profile, you’re getting lots of matches... now it’s time to take the next step – and send that first message!

When dating online, the first message you send is really important because if either one of you doesn’t send one, you could miss out on a potentially amazing connection! That first message can be a step towards taking control of your dating life and being proactive about it. So, what are you waiting for? Sending that first message can be daunting – no one likes to be rebuffed but if you don’t try you’ll never know! However, receiving a message from someone you’ve matched with is likely welcome attention so while there’s a risk of rejection, the reward might just be worth it.

So what should you include in your first message? At Yours Dating, we’ve done some research to point you in the right direction. Most people refer to something they have noticed in the profile of the person they are matched with. You could include a comment about one of their photos, ask about a pet they might be pictured with, and mention you’d really love to meet that pet. Most people don’t like pickup lines and aren’t particularly fond of jokes – especially when they haven’t met someone in person before – so be as genuine and honest as you can and try to get across why you’ve been inspired to send a message in the first place.

If you get a positive response, this is the signal to take it a step further again, so asking your match for their telephone number – or even out on a date – is a perfectly natural thing to do.

So be brave and start making those important connections with your matches – you never know what might happen next!