Phone solace silenced in upgrades
When her 19-year-old daughter died of injuries suffered in a Mother’s Day car crash five years ago, Lisa Moore sought comfort from the teenager’s cellphone.
She would call daughter Alexis’ phone number to listen to her greeting. Sometimes she’d leave a message, telling her daughter how much she loved her.
“Just because I got to hear her voice, I’m thinking ‘I heard her.’ It was like we had a conversation. That sounds crazy. It was like we had a conversation and I was OK,” the Terre Haute, Ind., resident said.
Moore and her husband, Tom, have spent $1,700 to keep their daughter’s cellphone service so they could preserve her voice. But now they’re grieving again, because the voice that provided solace has been silenced as part of a Sprint upgrade.
“I just relived this all over again because this part of me was just ripped out again. It’s gone. Just like I’ll never ever see her again, I’ll never ever hear her voice on the telephone again,” said Lisa Moore, who discovered the deletion when she called the number after dreaming her daughter was alive in a hospital.
Technology has given families like the Moores a way to hear their loved ones’ voices long after they’ve passed, providing them some solace during the grieving process. But the voices aren’t saved forever. Many people have discovered the voices unwittingly erased as part of a routine service upgrade to voice-mail services.
A Sprint upgrade cost Angela Rivera a voice-mail greeting from her husband, Maj. Eduardo Caraveo, one of 13 people killed during the Fort Hood, Texas, shootings in 2009. She said she had paid to keep the phone so she could continue to hear her husband’s voice and so her son, John Paul, who was 2 at the time of the shooting, could someday know his father’s voice.
“Now he will never hear his dad’s voice,” she said.
Transferring voice mails from cellphones to computers can be done, but it is often a complicated process that requires special software or more advanced computer skills. People often assume the voice mail is kept on the phone, when it really is stored in the carrier’s server. Verizon Wireless spokesman Paul Macchia said the company has a deal with CBW Productions that allows customers to save greetings or voice mails to CD, cassette, or MP3.
Many of those who’ve lost access to loved ones’ greetings never tried to transfer the messages, because they were assured they would continue to exist as long as the accounts were current. Others have fallen victim to carrier policies that delete messages after 30 days unless they’re saved again.
In the Moores’ case, Sprint spokesman Roni Singleton said the company began notifying customers in October 2012 that it would be moving voice-mail users to a different platform. People would hear a recorded message when they accessed their voice mail telling them of the move. Sprint sent another message after the change took effect.
No one in the Moore family got the message because Alexis’ damaged phone was stored in a safe.