TODAY’S CROSSWORD

ACROSS 1 Post ender 6 Viscous

substance 10 Madame

Bovary 14 Forest quaker 15 Freedom org. 16 Kind of roast 17 Wiped out 18 Cato’s highway 19 Rock-music

genre 20 Shogun’s yes 21 As it should be

(3 wds.) 24 Soft sweaters 26 Sudden silences 27 TV knob 28 Madrid art

gallery 30 Lays asphalt 33 — Jaw, Sask. 34 Consumer org. 37 Sheik

colleague 38 — Carlo 39 Feast with poi 40 Beat the

field 41 Voting

districts 42 Rumpled 43 Crowd

features 44 Underwater

shocker 45 Dismay 48 Purple martin 52 Hard-to-chew

sweets (2 wds.) 55 RN’s group 56 Indigo dye 57 Plains state 58 Genuine 60 Agreeable 61 Proofer’s word 62 Choose 63 Scored well 64 Jekyll’s other

half 65 Names on

pedigrees DOWN 1 Yoga type 2 Like pagodas 3 Leaf of grass 4 PGA peg 5 Motorcycle

races 6 Trot and canter 7 VIII, to Virgil 8 Cheers for

toreros 9 Acquisition 10 Marty Robbins hit

(2 wds.) 11 River terminus 12 Chop fine 13 Pharaohs’

amulets 22 Boon companion 23 Gruff 25 In charge of 28 Between puddles

and lakes 29 Turns to compost 30 Amen corner 31 —, amas, amat 32 Coq au — 33 Supplemental 34 Route follower 35 Univ. degrees 36 Terrific bargain 38 Archibald of verse 39 Break in the

action 41 House part 42 Mumps

companion 43 Storied 44 Wool supplier 45 Fridge maker 46 Take fright 47 Haggling point 48 Kind of board 49 Light beer 50 In the bag (2 wds.) 51 Power units 53 Lauder rival 54 Impressed 59 Yale athlete

You didn’t include a signature so I provided one.

Anyone who describes her husband as “a self-professed arrogant liar” knows exactly who she married.

So the real question is, what are you looking to get from writing to me? Validation for your distrust? Done. Sympathy? Done. Permission to go (or stay)? You’re your own permission.

I suspect what you really want is “why” — why he does this, why you’ve stayed, why you’ve mistaken this for a beauty contest — and the overarching “what” they compel: What now?

Please get out of his history, and seek answers in your own emotional health. Find a therapist, some supportive friends, some healthy outlets. Find you. Your confidence will speak for itself.