How to tell friends, family about miscarriage

How do you share news of a miscarriage with family, friends and co-workers?

Acknowledge the awkwardness of the situation.

If you want to talk about it, let friends or family know. If you want to be left alone, it is OK to ask for that as well.

Share the information on your timetable, and tell those closest to you in person.

Over the phone is the next best thing. Don’t beat around the bush or prolong it more than you have to. Say something along the lines of, “While there is no easy way to say this, I need to tell you something. We lost the baby.” Then, be silent, and give the person a moment to process. Let him or her know that there is no right or wrong reaction, and explain the best way to support you.

At work, share the news with your manager as soon as you feel comfortable. For coworkers, try to tell everyone at once. While difficult, it will stop the spread of rumors and innuendo. — Anne Grady, speaker and author of “Strong Enough: Choosing Courage, Resilience, and Triumph.”

Tell people about your miscarriage as soon as you can and in whatever way is easiest for you. While some may say that this isn’t the sort of thing you email, that’s not true — particularly if you only told a few people of your pregnancy.

If you used social media to announce your pregnancy, this might also be the place to tastefully announce your loss as well. Similar to the wording above, you can make a quick tweet or Facebook post. — Dr. Robin Elise Weiss, Lamaze childbirth educator, doula and parenting author.