Set an example for negative relatives
Q: Every year we debate whether or not to invite my aunt for Thanksgiving. She’s a very negative person who spends her whole time complaining and criticizing everyone, and it gets very unpleasant.
A: Instead of seeing her as a problem, see her presence with you as an opportunity to help her overcome her negative outlook. It may not happen all at once, but with God’s help, her time with you could be a turning point. Pray for her, and pray that God will give you patience and wisdom and kind words.
If possible, give her something to do that will keep her busy. Not only will it keep her occupied, but it’ll let her know that you value her. Some people criticize or complain because they feel left out.
Then go out of your way to make this a time of true Thanksgiving. If someone says something negative, respond with something positive. You might even go around the table and let everyone express why they’re thankful this year. Thankfulness always overwhelms ingratitude.