Discovery of pregnancy tests surprises girlfriend
DEAR ABBY: I am a lesbian. My girlfriend and I have been dating for six months. We have an awesome relationship and are very happy and open with each other.
I know she has dated guys in the past — so have I — so I’m not worried about that nonsense at all. But I recently found something of hers that surprised me. It was a container of pregnancy tests, and one was missing with a Plan B pill alongside of it. I am not mad about it because I know stuff happens, but I would rather that it not happen in our apartment.
I’m tempted to bring it up, but I would honestly rather not discuss it at all. I just don’t want anything happening in the apartment. Would it be weird if I just threw the stuff out without telling her, or should I say something?
What if she wants to keep it? I don’t think that would be the case, but it would start a fight because, as a female couple, we obviously don’t need a pregnancy test. I know I am overthinking this, and I could use some advice on how to handle this uncomfortable situation. — SURPRISED
DEAR SURPRISED: I’m glad you asked. Do NOT “quietly” throw out those pregnancy tests or the medication. I don’t know what kind of arrangement you have with your live-in girlfriend, but if fidelity was part of the agreement, you should absolutely talk with her
about what you found. It does not have to degenerate into a fight, but it’s important that you know why she feels the need to be in an intimate relationship, regardless of gender, with someone else.
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